High Conflict Relationships
There are difficult people everywhere. At home, at work, at church…you name it. The key is not avoiding them, but learning new strategies for not letting them negatively effect you, your emotions, and how you view yourself.
- Are you in a relationship with a difficult person?
- Are you frustrated with feeling controlled?
- Do you get the feeling that you are being manipulated?
- Are you tired of walking on eggshells?
- Do you feel like you are trapped?
High Conflict People
High conflict people share several traits and observable behavior patterns that remain consistent over time:
- Black and White Thinking
- Emotional Aggression
- Refusal to take responsibility for actions
- Lack of empathy
- Controlling and possessive of others
- Secret Keeping
- Extreme reactions to rejection
- Poorly managed emotions
- Persuasive blaming
- Finding facts to fit their feelings
Support is Available
Individuals who are stuck in high conflict relationships often struggle with anxiety, depression, self-doubt and shame. Often times these individuals don’t seek help for a number of reasons including:
- Fear of retaliation or punishment by high conflict person
- Deeply rooted feelings of shame from long term invalidation and abuse
- Maintaining the “status quo” has become familiar and (somewhat) tolerable
- The idea of leaving can create more anxiety than the thought of staying
I specialize in working with individuals who seek to change old behavior and relationship patterns that are working against them. Therapy, support and guidance is available to help you protect yourself, substitute problems for coping skills, communicate more effectively, deal with stress, anger and pain in a healthy way, and last but not least, learn how to avoid making the same mistake twice.